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The surprising return of the singles night | Dating | The Guardian
From naked dating to dirty Scrabble, singles nights and speed dating have been reinvented. Can these increasingly quirky events lead to lasting love? All Tindered out?


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The surprising return of the singles night. From naked dating to dirty Scrabble, singles nights and speed dating have been reinvented. Can these increasingly quirky events lead to lasting love? A Gatsby-themed singles event arranged by the dating app company Inner Circle. A Gatsby-themed singles event arranged by the dating app company Inner Circle. ‘I used to torture frogs when I was young,” the man was telling me, with a stare that would make the most experienced serial killer uneasy. I wasn’t at a Halloween party. It was Friday night in London and I was attending my first singles event. When my friend suggested it, I had expected the evening to be awkward. I hadn’t expected to be nursing a glass of a wine while a stranger described the many brutal ways he had culled the north London amphibian population. After two hours of painful conversation with other guests, we eventually escaped, although not before our new friend leaned in for a bum grope. I was unlucky at this mixer. But even when attendees don’t turn out to be on an RSPCA watch list, singles events can feel more forced than a 90s school disco. I am not alone in my phobia of organised mixers, a recent survey by the Inner Circle revealed that 41% of daters in the UK would refuse to attend one, citing embarrassment and awkwardness as the main reasons. Yet despite people’s preconceptions, the dating app company hasn’t been deterred. It holds 55 events a year, including parties, skiing trips and bingo. The average number of party attendees doubled to more than 300 between 2018 and 2019, suggesting the events are more popular than ever. Bingo for singles. Photograph: PR Handout undefined. Meanwhile, more traditional event organisers are also seeing a rise in demand, with SpeedDater running 70 events a month across 23 cities in the UK. “We are trying to break down the stigma,” says Sarah Payne, the events manager at SpeedDater Events. “There used to be a big stigma about online dating but that has gone now. It is completely normal to meet online and we’d like to see the same thing happen with events. We do speed dating, but we also run parties, cooking classes and wine tasting.” As people develop “app-based dating fatigue”, singles events are making a comeback. “Apps are very appearance-based and events give people the chance to get a better idea of who a person is. People might be unsure about attending them, but then find they enjoy the face-to-face interaction.” Lynn, a 58-year-old life coach from Liverpool, turned to speed dating after becoming disillusioned with Tinder. “A few years ago, people were enthusiastic on apps and wanted to meet up, but that doesn’t seem to happen now,” she explains. “I tried speed dating, because it’s a faster version of apps and you get to meet lots of different people.” Although she hasn’t found any serious romantic prospects, she has had fun and made new friends. “You can’t take it too seriously or expect too much. You might have to meet a huge number of people to find someone you are actually compatible with.” Some dating companies are putting a spin on singles mixers with events such as naked speed dating or pheromone dating, where people can try to sniff their way to true love. For Alice, 28, a copywriter from Reading, these gimmicks can be fun, but they aren’t likely to lead to love. “I went naked speed dating because I thought it would be something different,” she explains. “Usually, women’s tickets for dating events sell out faster than the men’s tickets, but the opposite was true for this.” She chose to wear her underwear, although many people were naked. While she admits there was a novelty factor, it is not something she will repeat in a hurry. “There was a weird guy there and a woman told me he was touching himself during the event, which was uncomfortable. I think it might be a good way to meet people if you are into exhibitionism, but I’m not sure it was for me.” Singles parties ‘give people the chance to get a better idea of a who a person is’. Photograph: Blend Images/Jill Giardino/Getty Images/Tetra images RF. Alice is unconvinced that any type of speed dating leads to love. Instead, she prefers to attend general meet-up groups, where there is no pressure to look for a partner. “I think it’s better when things develop organically. Although some dating events have been OK, I tend to find the women are much more up for it and the men aren’t really people I’d go for.” The desire for organic interaction is something dating companies are aware of, and it has led to a surge in the number of activity events for singles. In 2017, Charlie Spokes set up her own dating business, My Friend Charlie, after a conversation with her mum sparked the idea. “She couldn’t understand why I wasn’t dating people I met in real life. Whenever I went out, I’d go for dinner, speak to friends and come home,” she explains. “I wanted to start something where people could meet up, enjoy an activity and actually talk to each other.” The company has run more than 150 quirky events across Manchester, London and Bristol, including sunset cycling, quizzes, darts and axe throwing. Paul, a 36-year-old IT consultant from Manchester, has attended several of Charlie’s events. “I gave up with online dating after putting lots of effort into my responses and getting no replies. So far, all the events I’ve tried have been good.













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